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Love

Posted on 13. Feb, 2011 by chaze in Culture, Ramblings, Random

Love, what is this mysterious feeling or emotion that causing people to die, to come alive, and to become more then they ever imagined.

Is love what constitutes marriage and life long partnership or is love really a disease or drug like emotion that needs to be cured?

First I think it helps to understand the origin of love by knowing what the word itself means, not the new term in a dictionary but where it started.

“love” is from the Sanskrit lubhyati, meaning “desire.

Desire seems to be very different then love I mean desire is more man made like lust, where isn’t love natural and some what divine?

If you go back through time people have used love as a tool to seduce and rule others. For example in Bali the men there have a leaf that if fed to a women the women would worship him.

Chocolate claimed to have the same effect so kings would eat pounds of it before they visit their harems and feed it to all their women before fallatio.

When falling in love there is scientific proof that the brain processes stops to function normally. For example when someone looks at a new love, the neural circuits that are usually associated with social judgment are suppressed. It’s also proven when a person falls in love, the ventral tegmental area in the brain floods the caudate nucleus with dopamine. The caudate then signals for more dopamine; the more dopamine, the higher a person feels. The same system becomes activated when someone takes cocaine.

O.K. so love is getting a bad rep so far, “used for seduction and rule” and their scientific fact that women are susceptible to such influence like a being addicted to a drug because of love.

But what about happiness, how does that connect to love?

For me Happiness is the feeling of euphoria without guilt.

How is this possible with say a one night stand? Or being with someone you don’t love? Guilt effects these situations so I don’t think real happiness can come from this. Now if you throw love into a one night stand or a relationship. Then it’s passion or fate and you feel like you are part of something amazing and pure.

So is love a crutch for sin and being selfish or is it a key component in what makes two people feel right with each other?

Marriage; a union of two people that want to spend the rest of their lives together.

It’s interesting to me that prearranged marriages last 40% longer on average then marriages chosen by the suitors. Strange but this says something about the judgment of people in love, maybe love makes you see things differently, well like I said before it does for sure. We should also keep in mind these arranged marriages tend to be more violent and the women tend to have no outside life or real say in the life shared.

So how can these people spend the rest of their lives with someone that they do not love?

It’s true lots of these women don’t have a choice or where taught that love is bad and in some ways corrupt the union like lust. After all the key component of lust and love is desire. The truth is more of these women actually believe that marriage is about union, security, and culture not about about a feeling. Think of it as a business arrangement.

Well if you put all the questions I posed together you get a lot of different views and different adjectives about love.

Even with all the different views from around the world and through the history of time it’s safe to say Love makes us feel good but it also makes us do stupid things. So next time you find love, before you make a lifetime commitment let the drug like effects of Love where off (Like 6 months) then discuss marriage as a arrangement of two people with the same goals. If you can manage love and have a union together then you did it that is the a sure fire way to life long happiness.

Love alone cannot keep two people together you also need commitment for when love comes and goes. After all it’s just an emotion and all emotions are unstable.

Maybe love is a drug and I am sure it’s been used for bad things throughout time but these bad situations are nothing compared to the love between people around the world that have helped join families, save animals,  and people, ultimately making the world a better and happier place for everyone.

With that said here is a classic sing that will never get old.

Some facts about love:

Antidepressants may compromise romantic love because they enhance serotonin levels. Higher serotonin levels blunt emotions and inhibit obsessive thoughts about the lover, both crucial components of love.

Some psychologists argue that we fall in love with someone who is similar to the parent with whom we have unresolved childhood issues, unaware we are seeking to resolve this childhood relationship in adulthood.

To remain in love for a lifetime, therapists advise couples to listen actively to your partner, ask questions, give answers, appreciate, stay attractive, grow intellectually, include your partner, give him/her privacy, be honest and trustworthy, tell your mate what you need, accept his/her shortcomings, give respect, never threaten to leave, say “no” to adultery, don’t assume the relationship will last forever, and cultivate variety.

The herbs associated with Venus (marjoram, meadowsweet, mint, thyme, and violet) are said to be love inducing when mixed with those herbs sacred to Mars (basil and broom). Spreading them on the floor or scenting the bridal sheets with them supposedly evokes feelings of love.

Women around the world are more likely to fall in love with partners with ambition, education, wealth, respect, status, a sense of humor, and who are taller than they are. Women also prefer distinctive cheekbones and a strong jawbone, which are linked to testosterone levels. During ovulation, women become even more interested in men with signs of testosterone.

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