I truly feel our limits are set early in life. I also don’t think we even come close to the extent of our brain’s ability. So it’s really on what we feel we can do with a deep true confidence. I think this level of true confidence is best manifested at a young age. I guess my point is… teachers, parents, social workers, or any one working with a child, do not ever make a child feel like they cannot do something no matter how bad they fail in your eyes.
We are all different, and I can assure you their ability with the right push is far and beyond anything they are trying to do right now. If you must try to muzzle them, do it by positive reinforcement rewards so they naturally will focus on the things you need them to do. The more you try to force them, the less confidence they will have in themselves. The more you make them feel like they can’t the less they will do.