I believe strongly in associations. Things from our past giving us a chemical reaction to new things that remind of it. This can happen on small and big levels. For example, they say we are not born disliking any food. That means steaks vs broccoli all have the same fighting chance to be our favorite from birth. Obviously marketing has a lot of influence (less and less actually with TV commercials phasing out.) But more than marketing is emotional experience. Being forced to eat something never makes you like it more, and being rewarded something never makes you think it’s bad. These type of associations and experiences have molded what foods we tend like best and worse as adults. If you had food poisoning with salmon it’s likely you won’t like salmon again or fish all together. This is because when you think of salmon, you think and feel how you felt when you got sick. Luckily strong minds and strong will can overwrite these programs and have us enjoy stuff we thought as a child or teenager was gross even if we had a bad experience with it. This is very important to understand because on the bigger level […]
Being driven is not something you are born with, it’s takes time to learn just like any other trait. Here are some short cuts to start taking more action towards your goals today. Shout out to TADLA for helping me clean things up! 1. Feeling Bad for Yourself. Most driven people take what they can from a bad situation, learn from it, and move on. Never feel like the world owes you something, it does not. 2. Allowing Others to Use You. Driven people can see right away if someone is trying to use them or take their energy. When you see this happening or foresee this, shake it off and move on. 3. Being Afraid of Change Driven people embrace change and realize to succeed you must adapt and excel. 4. Worrying About Things You Cannot Control To be driven is to not let minor situations set back your overall goal. Things will always set you back, the trick is to let it effect you the least amount possible and stay moving forward. 5. People Pleasing Driven people do not get ahead by kissing butts. They make their own path and plow through anything in their way. 6. Fear […]
I truly feel our limits are set early in life. I also don’t think we even come close to the extent of our brain’s ability. So it’s really on what we feel we can do with a deep true confidence. I think this level of true confidence is best manifested at a young age. I guess my point is… teachers, parents, social workers, or any one working with a child, do not ever make a child feel like they cannot do something no matter how bad they fail in your eyes. We are all different, and I can assure you their ability with the right push is far and beyond anything they are trying to do right now. If you must try to muzzle them, do it by positive reinforcement rewards so they naturally will focus on the things you need them to do. The more you try to force them, the less confidence they will have in themselves. The more you make them feel like they can’t the less they will do.